“You’re looking well.”
There’s a lot of messages on MS related social media sites from annoyed MSers who hate to be told they’re looking well.
Of course the reasoning behind this is that MS is an invisible disease and while I may look OK on the outside… blah blah blah – you get the picture.
Can I just go on record that I will never tire of anyone telling me that I look well, or have a healthy complexion or that I’m an irresistable sex god, because frankly it doesn’t happen that often.
One of my wife’s friends dropped by the other day to drop something off and she remarked about how well I looked. I’d spent a day of industrial action working my allotment plot and while I was still feeling the after effects in my limbs I’d caught the sun and, the risk of skin cancer notwithstanding, I probably do look healthy (I also probably glow in the dark).
If people think they have to complement me on how I look because they know I have MS, then let ‘em.
One of the key afflictions for anyone with MS, quite apart from any physical symptoms caused by demyelination, is psychological.
On occasion, if I’ve had a bad day and I’m feeling nackered, and maybe my body hasn’t done what it’s meant to do, I can get quite maudlin. If someone wants to remind me that I look fabulous, let them. It won’t make the MS go away, but it will go a considerable way to healing my other ailment.
And by the way… just so you know… you’re looking fabulous.